Recently, I read a really interesting piece by Raul Felix about the Generation Y Division that inevitably existsbased on those who entered the military versus those who went to college. It further resonated with me because although I first went to college, I also worked in contingency operations in Bagram, Afghanistan from Yes, I was objectified.
Yes, I received plenty of attention. Yes, I knew that I could pretty easily sleep with anyone that I wanted if I really tried.
And yes, I still chose to date a man-in-uniform despite the crude, ugly truths that Raul described. So there are usually two polarized groups of females who want to date a military guy:. The typical, grew up near a military base and was told she had to have a man, so she would do anything to get one kind of girl, who is also usually the same girl who cheats on her man while he is deployed….
The strong, neo-feminist inspired woman, who is successful on her own and is seeking a man who is strong enough to lead her, despite her own capabilities and independence. So, whether you fall into the former or latter of those groups, IF you find yourself attracted to a Gen Y military men, here are a few warnings for you, based on my experiences:.
I know there are days where you want to burst into tears because your favorite lipstick got discontinued. But your military man is not going to care or lend very much sympathy to you. Call a girlfriend, find a new lipstick shade, and keep this one out of sight from your guy.
Be prepared and try to understand that 3 to 6 months of bro bonding time really is not healthy for a man, and he has to do what he has to do to overcome that.
The majority of these guys- especially the ones who have deployed during the last 12 years to Iraq or Afghanistan, had the gift and the curse of the Internet at their disposal.
They used Myspace, Facebook, e-mail, texts, and all other written mediums in order to communicated with their loved ones- on a limited basis. So sitting down one-on-one may be really challenging and uncomfortable.
Again- call a girlfriend or your gay bestie for a coffee date and get that gossip-craving satisfied. And she probably spent all of his money.
Be aware of his hesitations. It takes a lot of emotional maturity for a person to begin removing the pain from memories and just seeing them as stories, or objective experiences.
Most people live their entire lives without facing their emotional demons, because we live in a society that has taught us to suck it up and soldier on. Couple that with the seriously beyond-human-comprehension brutalities of war that your man may have experienced, and hey- it could trickle into your relationship.
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